The Thought

Lately been getting articles on depression and suicide and triggered me to write this post. Crisis is always almost temporary. It depends on how you want to tackle it. Some really can take it really bad, some will just shut themselves off  and face it later and when you overcome it, it is actually just another drama you have in life that make you grow up.

Suicidal thought, depression what is that? Having emotion and mental condition is something that we should be concern but that does not means you are a defect. There are many reasons for having this thought and the ability to face the pain is different from one to another individual.

Human emotions and feelings are not fixed. What you feel today might not be the same as yesterday nor tomorrow. It is always easy to put blame on others, leave in denial or even end it rather than to face it. I have to admit at times the thought does come back but ending life is not a solution, take a deep breath, in hale and ex hale when you have this thought. 

When you are the state thinking of ending your life, think again what are the things you have yet to achieve. Always call someone, don't keep it to yourself (I know it is not easy to pour it out compared to typing it), build a support system, one thing I learned never depend on one person as the disappointment when you can't reach out can make you feel more freaking worse as you will feel that you are all alone (when it is not true)  Do things that can makes you happy and change your thinking. Most important, always seek the guide from the Creator, He listens to your pray no matter how bad you are in life. Be more open so whenever you feel hopeless it can nurture your thought to positive vibes.There are more colors to see in life.

Queen Of My Heart

Mama, if you are alive today you will be celebrating your 59th birthday but Allah loves you more. You left us so sudden 14th years ago but your presence are still felt deep in me. Some said I need to learn to let go and move as you are no longer around.

When you are gone things are not the same. I've tried to do what you used to do but it was not as easy as I know as sometimes what works for you might not work for me. 

I still remember how I kept answered you back when I don't like to do what you asked me to do. Until one point I feel like I might be adopted kid or something because I will always be the one you look if the 2 kiddos do trouble and you never asked them to do much as me.

I've realized what you have wanted me to learned. I'm thankful for your lessons and guidance though you thought me the hard way. You have thought me to be independent at a very young age but I'm still being spoiled in some way he3. You thought me to be open minded, your thinking is always different from the rest. You have your own principle. Even every time I argued with Pa, he will always said I'm like you, wants everything my way. You are also the one who actually make me open up. I still remember how you look for a 'boy friend' for me to be friend so that I won't be anti social. 

Sometimes I envy all my friends who still have their mom. I wish I could still have you with us. Spot checking what I'm doing, asking have I gone home from work, asking if have I eaten. I wish I have more time with you so that we can have mother daughter day out, go and do all the girlish stuffs together but I guess Allah really loves you more.

Mama it has been 7 months I left our nest and live on my own and if you are alive now,  I know you will support what I want to do and continue to encourage me. Your favorite line 'cuci otak' this is what I'm doing Ma.

Mama you will always be in my heart. May you found peace there. 

Al-Fatihah.

Bila Emosi Mula Berkuasa

Bukan semua yang kita lakukan itu sentiasa betul, namun boleh jadi apa yang kita fikir salah, itu adalah terbaik buat waktu itu, masa itu.

Bila emosi merajai hati,  hati dan fikiran mula tidak akan berjalan selari. Kita akan berada di dalam keadaan rapuh. Rasa ingin disayangi, rasa merindui, rasa marah, dendam dan cemburu, segala rasa positif dan negatif mula muncul sekali sehingga kita keliru.

Setiap kesalahan kita tundingkan kepada orang lain, kita mula merungut, cuba membuat orang fahami diri kita sedaya upaya. Hubungan mula rapuh, tali persaudaraan dan persahabatan putus, sedangkan kita lupa untuk melihat diri kita, luar dan dalam, kekurangan diri kita.

Kadang-kala yang kita perlukan adalah sedikit masa sendirian, merenung apakah  kesalahan kita, kekurangan diri kita dan cuba baiki.

Sahut cabaran dan ubahkan kekurangan itu menjadi kelebihan. Memang bukan mudah tetapi kadang-kala kita perlu belajar untuk mengawal emosi. Mungkin apa yang kita lihat itu mudah, tetapi bahu yang memikul itu lebih mengetahui. Bukan semua orang boleh memikul beban yang sama kita pikul.

Bila emosi mula merajai, ambik masa sejenak dan dekatkan diri pada yang Maha Esa. Jangan biarkan nafsu menguasai diri sehingga kita hidup dalam penyesalan.

Ingatan Buat Diri Ini

Emosi dan minda sentiasa tidak berjalan seiring. Aku mungkin nampak tersenyum tetapi di dalam hati hanya Dia yang mengetahui. Hanya yang betul-betul mengenali diri ini tahu apa yang aku lalui. 

Aku masih tertanya-tanya, dimanakah silap aku atau mungkin aku terlalu inginkan perhatian dan keinginan merasakan secebis kasih sayang. Kerana ini, aku lupa untuk menyayangi diri sendiri dan melukakan diriku tanpa ku sedari. Aku tidak mengharapkan banyak hanya sekadar untuk aku tahu bahawa aku punya tempat bersandar saat aku memerlukan. Namun aku juga sedar, walaupun kadang-kala terlambat yang aku tak sentiasa betul dan bila aku mengaku kesalahan aku, it is a huge step for me.

Ya hidup ini penuh dengan segala kemungkinan. Kemungkinan untuk gembira dan kemungkinan untuk kecewa. Itulah asam garam hidup. Everything is possible. Rasa kehilangan pasti akan ada bila yang rapat dengan kita menjauh atau pergi. Kita mungkin akan rasa tersakiti atau disakiti. Namun kita harus ingat Allah.S.W.T. itu adalah sebaik baik perancang. Mungkin dia ditakdirkan untuk hadir sekejap dalam hidup kita untuk mewarnai dairi perjalanan hidup kita.

Cubalah bertahan wahai diri dan terus mewarnai hidup insan-insan disekeliling dengan memberi kasih sayang yang ikhlas. Walauapapun ingat Allah itu ada untuk anda. La Tahzan.

A Stupid Act

It is our human nature to make mistake but the important thing is how strong are you or do you have the guts to admit your wrongdoings. It is always easy to blame others rather than admit it was your mistake.

Situation can be out of hand and it might not go as what you've planned but not everyone understands it. One stupid mistake can cause you a lot. You might lost a friend, family but life is cruel at times and that is what making you stronger and grow mature.

The art of moving on is to forgive and forget. The moment the grunge is still within you it will be the ghost that haunts you till you decide to forgive and forget.

Sometimes you just need to close one eye when someone dear to you did a mistake as you know she or him better. You will know what to do even her or his act might hurt you.

It is not easy to act as easy for us to say I know that. When you learn to let go, you eventually have moved on.

I'll end this entry with the song below.
#forgiveandforget

Where Are You?

Demanding client, pestering family, playful friends is the condiments that spices up my adventure. It had made me realize I still have a lot to learn.

Knowing the typical me, BUT will always be an excuse for me to procrastinate. It has also made me felt how small my brain is that I could no longer think beyond.  My focus is everywhere, no more fun. There is always reasons for not performing.I felt I'm no longer the me that I used to be.

At this hour, I kept thinking what do I actually want?  I've been using no time as an excuse all this while to keep me stay in my comfort zone when I suppose to seek for opportunity to do my best and be the best.

Maybe it's the time again to pause and think and make use of my brain and gut feelings.

La Tahzan Hellie

Coretan kali ini lebih kepada perasaan aku ketika ini, waktu ini. Diam tak diam Raya bakal berlalu, aku rasa masa berlalu begitu pantas. Kadang-kala aku rasa 24 jam tak pernah cukup untuk aku buat apa yang aku nak buat. Aku menjadi tamak ingin buat segalanya dalam satu masa hingga melepaskan waktu yang berharga.

  

Aku sentiasa mempersoalkan kenapa aku? lepas satu-satu bencana datang. Baru nak tarik nafas lega datang lagi satu ujian. Tak kira kehidupan peribadi mahupun kerjaya aku. Aku rasa sentiasa diuji-Nya. Aku sentiasa mempersoalkan dimana silap aku. Kenapa aku? Kenapa bukan orang lain. Kalau orang lain boleh bahagia, kenapa tidak aku? Kadang-kala aku persoalkan kenapa aku still single? Will there be someone for me? Adakah orang mengingati aku ketika mereka gembira? Atau orang hanya mengingati aku ketika mereka dalam kesusahan sahaja. Aku cuba meyakinkan diri aku, I can live all by myself no matter what. Kadang-kadang aku pun tak tahu apa aku nak. Hmmm...

Kadang-kadang aku rasa macam aku ni BIMBO yang clueless of what I want in life. Boss aku pernah cakap "Helena, sometimes it's not about questioning what make you start to loose your passion in life but to find back your muse. What makes your passion sparks. What can you do to do better in life." Disebabkan kedegilan aku kata-kata dia ibarat mencurahkan air ke daun keladi. Aku tetap mempersoalkan kesilapan aku dan mula menyalahkan orang lain dan mula hidup dalam kesedihan, meratapi nasib sendiri. 

Tetapi, hari ini aku berlajar satu perkataan baru, La Tahzan. Tiba-tiba aku ingin tahu maksud disebaliknya jadi aku pun google.  Aku belajar aku tidak sepatutnya berasa sedih dan mengeluh tetapi bersyukur kerana pasti ada hikmahnya di sebalik setiap ujian yang diturunkan-Nya kepada aku. Mungkin apa yang aku lihat itu remeh tetapi tidak bagi orang lain. Mungkin hati ini telah buta untuk melihat tetapi aku harus belajar bersyukur dan menikmati apa yang ada. 

Aku harus belajar untuk menerima supaya aku boleh move on. Belajar menghargai apa yang aku ada. Belajar untuk memperbaiki diri bukan mempersoal kesilapan lalu. Belajar untuk lihat dari sudut lain.

 La Tahzan Hellie, La Tahzan.